Feb 192013

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As most of you know, the Frugality Is Free family is very close to greeting our first baby girl into our family. This wonderful blessing has come with a bit of a dilemma though, and I am hoping that some of you may be able to offer tips on how to handle this dilemma of motherhood’s blessings.

Our baby girl’s due date is set only a day before our middle son’s seventh birthday, and he would love to keep his birthday all to himself. I am going to do everything in my power to ensure that our children will not have to share their birthday, but then again there is only so much that I can do.

However, I am trying to prepare for a potential birthday conflict, as I might be in the hospital on my son’s birthday. In this case, I need to come up with a solution for how to make his birthday special without it taking too much work. We have already established that this year birthdays will be low key, since I knew that I would have no energy for elaborate birthday plans while pregnant.

If any of you have any ideas for how I can make our son’s birthday special, even if I am in the hospital, I’d love to hear your feedback.

Do you have a birthday conflict in your family?


  8 Responses to “The Dilemma of Motherhood’s Blessings”

  1. If you are keeping it very low key, as in your family. Have a small part in the hospital room. That’s what I did. we had balloons, cake and presents. My son was thrilled that he got to spend it with me and his new brother (tho he was in nicu). It was just our family and my parents. But it worked perfect. We then had a party for him later on for his friends, etc once I was home and feeling better. Nothing big or fancy just a fun run around the yard burgers/hotdogs kind of party. He was fine with that as well, as he liked the fact he had 2 parties.

  2. Wrap small gifts for him and leave them in various places around the house. Whoever is in charge of the kids on that day can make it like a treasure hunt for him to find the gifts and this will make the day very special for him . Take one gift to the hospital with you so that he can open that with you.

    I am a firm believer in you do celebrate on the day of.

    My girl friend did an entire party for one of my children (I totally missed but he had an awesome birthday. One year my oldest took over and did a party for a younger sibling again I totally missed. The last one I missed Grandma took over and did the birthday party and I totally missed. So the solution I came up with was to participate as I could from a hospital bed.

    • Jenna I love the treasure hunt idea. I have done this in the past, and the boys love it. I am going to make it ahead of time, and make sure to hide them where he won’t look before then. I will also pack a bag with a few gifts for the hospital…just in case.

  3. Congrats on your baby Girl! Our daughter was due on my husbands birthday. She was born two days after. Although it isn’t the same as a child’s we still make a point to make them separate events (ie different decorations, activities, dinners). My birthday is 4 days after my sister’s. While it did kinda suck having joint birthday parties, my mom always made sure we had our own birthday cakes and we always got to pick a favorite food for our birthday dinners. I would be prepared to have a hospital room birthday party this year and next year figure out the rest. 🙂

  4. I keep checking to see if she has arrived yet! I’m not sure of your due date. I can’t wait to see a picture (you have to send me one, even if you don’t post one). I can only imagine with your beautiful boys just how amazing this little sweetheart is going to be. I think I would have a present wrapped for him as a gift from the baby (just in case). The more you play up his roll in being a big brother, the less he will notice that you are celebrating in the hospital. If they end up with the same birthday…make it seem very special to him and then as they get older, give them each their own celebration (don’t make them celebrate together). Maybe if you do a little celebration at home or in the hospital (depending on your status) but then let him do something special with his daddy and his brothers…a boy’s night out at the local pizza place maybe…it would create a special memory for him even if you miss out a bit (you will be too tired to care this year)!

    • Sue, my due date is next week, and I keep on hoping that our little one will get here just a few days early, so that we can avoid any birthday dilemmas. That’s a great idea about a gift for the baby, I’ll get it done tonight. I have already done a lot of preparation in trying to make it special that he might end up getting a little sister for his birthday, but I know he really wants to keep his birthday to himself:)

      No matter what, he will be choosing dinner that night, and we will be having cake etc. whether it is in the hospital or home. My husband is not big on birthday celebrations, so I know I have to do what I can without him…and I’m counting on my oldest son to help out with decorations, in case I’m not at home.

      I’m keeping my fingers crossed though….I really would love to avoid a double birthday:)

  5. i have the same dilemma that my girls are in the same month! Yes i agree with others still do something for him and if it is in the budget have daddy take him to those bouncy house indoor places, or a pirate cruise, and have a lil celebration in the room with you! i bet you he will love to spend it with his lil sis too!

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